Comments on: Help A Shopaholic Manage A Shopping Addiction

By: emma wilson

emma wilson — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 20:34:59 +0000

i will tell you how to really stop your man from spending all of that money first you cut all of the credit cards off then you make sure you put all the money in a bank account and then you tell them no.

By: cheryl from thatgirlisfunny

cheryl from thatgirlisfunny — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 21:46:01 +0000

My goodness! You picked a challenging topic. Whether the characterizations are male or female didn’t bother me as much as the landmines exposed when one person starts to feel like they can’t trust the other.

Ouch! I feel all the air being sucked out of my lungs. Money is such a volatile subject.

Control issues abound whenever money enters the conversation regarding who gets what and why. When addiction, of any sort, enters the picture, counseling is needed. This is just too big of an issue for most of us to handle well.

By: Joseph Ferrera

Joseph Ferrera — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:06:00 +0000

Compulsive shoppers looking to raise awareness.

Dear fellow compulsive shoppers, family and friends,

My name is Joseph and I am producing a new documentary film aimed to raise awareness of compulsive shopping and shopoholism in America.

Both I and the film’s director are recovering compulsive shoppers. I know the feeling of having an uncontrollable urge to shop and consume to fill something within, but only to be left with an emptiness at the end of the day. We seek to bring to light both the psychological and cultural forces that have brought about our epidemic of compulsive shopping. What is it that drives us to fill our lives with “things?”

We are searching for someone who would feel comfortable in front of a camera, and would like to share with us the motivations behind their shopping.

If you would like to raise awareness of the issue by sharing your story in our film, we would love it if you could send us some information about yourself – your name, age & general area of residence, as well as some insight into your situation. How does compulsive shopping affect your day-to-day life? Are you stuck in a cycle of shopping to make yourself feel better? Does compulsive shopping hold your life back through debt, or other financial obstacles? Has the ritual of shopping replaced other, more productive or personally beneficial activities you may have previously participated in?

Please just let me know if you feel you may want to participate.

Thank you so much and best of luck!

Joseph Ferrera
josephferrera1@gmail.com

By: Karey

Karey — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 13:11:43 +0000

Thanks for the article, I just discovered by mistake that my wife has been spending too mooch $$$ every month for the last 2yrs… during the time I was unemployed..yes unemployed. It almost cost us our marriage and may cost us our home. College education (daughter graduating this year from H.S.), 1/3 of retirement, savings, is deleted. Now, I did not want to monitor her every move but now I have no choice. Thanks for the article.

By: Jacques Sprenger

Jacques Sprenger — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 02:00:01 +0000

Anytime, Beth, anytime you decide to comment on my articles, whether positively or negatively, please do so. This older male ) is still flexible enough to accept criticism and mend his ways. Besides, there is nothing I like more than a lively back-and-forth among interesting people. Since you are an English Teacher, we have something in common, since I also teach English, but to special needs teens. Maybe we can exchange some teaching strategies.

By: Beth

Beth — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 00:02:13 +0000

Hey, thanks for the link. I apologize for letting the critic get the better of me It’s great that someone is calling attention to this important issue — especially these days.

By: SVB

SVB — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 23:13:14 +0000

Thanks for the constructive criticism Beth. I hope that the article was useful in that imparted a message on the topic of overspending. You may want to visit this one on the same subject: Stop Overspending Now. I do understand your sensitivity to the gender positioning of the article, but as the author explained, he writes from his standpoint and experience. Regardless of how the article is positioned, we always do our best to provide readers with content that sheds light on financial issues on a daily basis. Hopefully this will prove helpful to readers nevertheless. Personally, I think the article makes some great points (I realize that the use of gender here was more of an example, so I didn't really notice it much).

By: Beth

Beth — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 22:59:09 +0000

I did notice that part of the article, but that only reinforces the point. The husbands sneak in a purchase that isn’t in the budget, but it’s the wives who have a serious problem. The man makes a purchase online, while the woman seems to buy whatever she sees.

I still think this article would have been more useful if it wasn’t written in a “how to manage your wife” sort of tone. Just to give some perspective, a friend of mine in university was a shopaholic who wound up in serious consumer debt — and he’s male. It would have been useful to know how to help a friend or family member with this problem. Moreover, it could have clearly identified warning signs and steps to get help. The content wasn’t focused, and the author seemed to wander all over the place. (Sorry… my English teacher background is kicking in here…)

By: Jacques Sprenger

Jacques Sprenger — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 21:08:54 +0000

Absolutely Beth, I take your valid point and believe me, even though SVB classifies me as an Older Male (sounds like the male member of a pride of lions who let the females do the shopping), I totally depend on my wife for budgeting the expenses. I will be the compulsive spender, at times, and she has to reign me in to respect the financial limits. I was just making an example when using wife, though I could have used husband instead. Yes, I am of the older generation who grew up in the 50s, so maybe I harbor a secret bias )

By: SVB

SVB — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 18:53:29 +0000

Yes, the writer is an older male, but I think he was just making an example here. I get the message. The author does say this:

But it’s not only the wife who may be guilty of secret purchases; how many husbands order that magical (expensive) new tool on the Internet while at work, knowing that the budget does not allow for that additional expense?